Do whatever the hell it takes to make you feel real again. – Quote Unknown
When I saw Kink of the Week was all about lace, I thought I’d already written a post about that, turns out I haven’t and I wasn’t sure why because I totally thought I was into lace. Then I read It’s all a bit pants by sub bee and her post really got me thinking as to whether or not lac is my fabric of choice for lingerie, it seems it really isn’t.
Don’t get me wrong, I have some lacy undies and there nice enough, but they’re never going to be my choice of lingerie if I want to feel my sexiest. Fishnet that is my choice if I want to feel my absolute sexy best. Fishnet makes me feel good, regardless of whether or not anyone around me validates that feeling with their words.
As for what I find sexy on others, lace probably wouldn’t be my first choice there either. One of the sexiest looks for me is when someone is wearing simple undies with some kind of vest top. Visually that’s something that will give me an instant lady boner.
What turns me on even more though is someone wearing something that they feel good in. If I had a partner who felt amazing in lace and that is what they chose to wear when they wanted to feel their best, you’d better believe that lace will find it’s way into my favour.
Other things I find more sexy than the lingerie staple of lace would include a baggy t-shirt and no knickers, just wearing socks, yoga pants, jogging bottoms with no underwear beneath them, underwear that sticks two fingers up a gender conformity and best of all no clothes at all.
Bee’s post also got me thinking about how many of us are wearing the ‘sexy’ things we think we are meant to be wearing, rather than the things that truly make us feel like ourselves. I know I have definitely done this before and at 35 you’d think I’d know better, but even now I discover things that make me feel so good I can’t believe I didn’t know they were my thing.
Most recently of all, ditching the bras. I always wear a bra when I leave the house. My nipples are quite prominent and I feel the need to shield society from their presence. Mr F quite simply finds the notion of me wearing a bra horrifying. So I started out going bra free for dates, if the clothing allowed for it. Then lockdown allowed for me to go bra free all the time, but I still put one on for shopping or lockdown approved walks.
Then last week I just stopped. I went out with no bra and just a t-shirt for a walk and no-one died because my nipples were a bit pointy and honestly I never want to wear a bra again. Yes it means I don’t get such a good cleavage and yes it’s far more obvious that I have small boobs, but honestly who the fuck cares? I don’t want the man in Asda to suck my tits, so no skin off my nose if he doesn’t like the look of them.
My small boobies have been set free and honestly, it feels really damn good and I feel a lot like myself just rocking a t-shirt sans bra and I never even knew this would feel so awesome for me.
It’s worth noting that I’m linking this up to Lingerie Is For Everyone as well which is a place you can totally share your comfy, non-conforming, super sexy, ‘this feels like me’ underwear shots and I don’t think I’d be alone in saying I’d love to see more of those kinds of pictures. So go forth wear what feels good for you and show us all how great you look when you feel most like yourself.