About Floss

Floss is a queer, kinky writer and podcaster who has been sharing erotic fiction, personal essays, and community-focused conversations since 2018. Her work spans FemDom erotica, reflections on non-monogamy, and explorations of alternative lifestyles.

She describes herself as a queer, kinky, and definitely dirty girl — and her blog is a space for honest, explicit, and thoughtful engagement with desire, identity, and relationships.

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There is something quietly radical about carving out a space where desire can speak in its own voice, without shame or shorthand. FlossDoesLife exists in that gap between what we are told to want and what actually stirs us awake at night. The blog leans into the full spectrum of kink, fetish, and BDSM not as spectacle but as a lived, breathing part of identity — one that deserves the same nuance and narrative care as any other facet of a whole person.

Erotic fiction lives at the heart of this project, and it thrives on tension, surrender, and the electric charge of power exchange. FemDom stories unfold with psychological depth, placing female desire at the centre rather than the margins. The writing resists easy tropes, favouring slow-burning scenes where control is negotiated, teased, and sometimes lost. These are tales for readers who understand that the most potent erotica often lies in what is withheld, suggested, or earned.

Non-monogamy appears here not as a lifestyle manual but as a lived experience, full of unexpected tenderness and real emotional complexity. The blog reflects on polyamory, swinging, and open relationships with honesty, acknowledging the jealousy, compersion, and constant communication that underpin them. It challenges the idea that monogamy is the only valid architecture for love, while refusing to pretend that alternative structures are simple or free from heartache.

Community has always been a thread running through the blog, woven through memes, link-ups, and the shared rituals of kinky blogging culture. Participating in prompts like Sinful Sunday, Masturbation Monday, and Wicked Wednesday connects individual expression to something larger — a network of voices all insisting that sexuality is worth talking about, worth photographing, worth celebrating. These collective moments turn solitary reflection into a conversation.

The podcast extends that conversation into voice and tone, offering a more intimate way to sit with the ideas that animate the blog. Episodes explore kink identity, relationship dynamics, and creative process with warmth and curiosity. Listening feels less like being lectured and more like eavesdropping on a thoughtful, filthy, and deeply human dialogue between people who refuse to edit out the messy parts.

Sexuality and identity intersect here in ways that resist neat categorisation. Queerness, kink, and polyamory are not treated as separate compartments but as overlapping landscapes that inform one another. The writing honours the fluidity of desire and the way it can shift across time, context, and relationship. There is room for contradiction, for changing your mind, for wanting things that do not fit a tidy narrative.

Writing about sex means writing about vulnerability, and the blog does not shy away from the emotional terrain beneath the physical. Reflections on medical kink, friendship, and the quiet logistics of maintaining multiple relationships sit alongside erotic fiction and playful prompts. The result is a body of work that feels grounded and generous, offering readers permission to explore their own edges without judgment.

Ultimately FlossDoesLife is an invitation to stay curious about what turns you on and why. It champions the idea that kink can be a form of self-knowledge, that blogging about sex is a legitimate creative practice, and that sharing your story — however explicit or uncertain — can be a quiet act of resistance against a culture that prefers silence.