Tag: Share Our Shit Saturday

#SoSS – Therapy, Fucking and … More Fucking!

IMG_6992Monday brought me my first, ‘well that’s a #SoSS post’ moment when I read The Therapist by Karin at theswingshift. This week saw me starting to share some of my experiences with mental health, part of which details how I never quite succeeded in sticking with therapy. That isn’t because I don’t value it though, I absolutely do, especially when as Kinksters we find an understanding and supportive therapist. I don’t know Karin personally, only through the post I’ve read on her blog, that didn’t stop me thoroughly touched though at her thoughts on finding and visiting a therapist.

I’ve had an interesting week. I’ve been delving into the parts of my brain I don’t tend to visit very often and when I read Sometimes I need the Rough Stuff by Sassy Cat, I absolutely got it. Unfortunately weather and other commitments meant Bakji and I didn’t get any sexy times this week, but oooh boy was this a week for needing the rough stuff. For me it’s more about feeling something ‘bigger’ and ‘deeper’ than what I’m feeling in my head. Rough sex or kink that hurts so good, or words that sound harsh to the unknowing ear but sooth my brain niggles like a lullaby. I love that stuff, but as Cat says in her post, ‘only when I know they don’t truly mean what they say in the heat of the moment’.

Escape on the High Seas by Livvy Libertine is a following on piece from her previousIMG_6997 post A Valuable Treasure. I won’t lie I didn’t read them in order though, I normally would have but I got so caught up in the story I just couldn’t stop. I feel like I’ve read part of a book and don’t have the rest of the pages to quench my thirst for the rest of the tale. I am hoping that Livvy gives us more of this tale, because I really want to know more.

As I said I’ve been feeling the urge for the rougher side of sex and kink this week. For me that also includes dirty words and forthright descriptions of sexual activities. Such a Dirty Bitch Deserves a Whipping by May More delivered on both counts. I got to the end and all I could think was 1) that dress does look delightful, 2) I’m a dirty bitch and 3) Goddammit where’s my whipping!

My last offering for this weeks #SoSS is That Time in the Car Park by PixieHeart. It is an all over sexy tale, and it definitely got me hot under the collar and feeling frisky. However, there was one sentence alone that made it worthy of being included in this roundup.

He takes hold of my hand and for a minute I thought I was safe, that my punishment was over

Now I don’t know PixieHeart’s Husband a.k.a The Boss Man. However, the Sadistic Dominant in me laughed hard when I read this. That sexy evil laughter though, that tends to get masochists and submissives giddy with that nervous sexual energy. ‘For a IMG_6998minute I thought I was safe’, what a delightful way to make someone feel, right before you prove them wrong. Loved this Pixie. Absolutely loved it.

That is your lot from me this week. I hope you give all these posts a read and more that will be shared through #SoSS over on Twitter. I have seen plenty of sex bloggers commenting on how they have been shadow-banned this week, so this is definitely something we need to keep ploughing away at so that all these wonderful posts don’t go unnoticed.

#SoSS – Shared Joy is Double Joy

I follow lots of blogs, but I have never managed to keep track of any of that, for that I apologise, especially if I’m missing out on wonderful posts. It’s part of the reason I enjoy social media, because I get pointed in the direction of good things by those I follow. Another way I enjoy finding good reads is writing memes like Masturbation Monday, Wicked Wednesday and Kink of the Week.

Masturbation-Monday-badge-1Masturbation Monday led me to two of the things I’d like to share with you this week. The first being Teachers Pet by Hey Mrs. Robinson. When I started reading it my initial reaction was ‘ooh this is naughty, naughty’. I merrily read along, absolutely thinking I had this story banged to rights. Then I got to the end and realised I absolutely didn’t, and that made me enjoy it even more.

The second piece of Masturbation Monday fiction I enjoyed was The Shoemaker by Cousin Pons. This appealed to me for two reasons. One, it was super sexy and two, it involved feet. I never imagined I’d be someone who was into anything to do with feet. Here I am though, someone who enjoys foot worship and the giving of sexual pleasures by way of my feet. When I read The Shoemaker, I could imagine all the things that were described and they absolutely ticked all the boxes for me.

Now is the time for me to mention my current obsession, the Smut Marathon. We now have a page were we can link our posts we write with reference to the Smut Marathon, and this week that includes Smut Marathon Round 1: On Comfort Zones and Other Stories. Joining the Smut Marathon myself was a huge leap out of my own comfort zone, so I related to an a lot of what was said in this piece. I think sharing our experience of the Smut Marathon is great way to encourage people to perhaps consider participating next year, even if it doesn’t feel like the comfortable thing for you to do.

A long time favourite blog of mine is Poly.Land, which regular readers and podcast listeners will know. This week I read ‘There’s Something Magical About That Person Who Raises Your Standards’ and my brain was giving all the thumbs up as I read it. When I my Bakji my standards weren’t great, in many aspects of life, a low opinion of myself had allowed me to lower them to unforgivable levels. This isn’t the white knight story though, I wasn’t a damsel in distress and I didn’t need saving. What I need was a healthy dose of reality and a better vision of myself both of which Bakji helped me to find. I think the quote below from Page’s article sums it up perfectly.

‘There’s something magical about that person who not only meets your needs but also raises your standards. Who turns you into a bit of a love snob. Who can throw away the storybook notions you had of romance at nine years old and replace them with something that’s somehow both more realistic and better.’ -Page Turner, Poly.Land

My last post for this week is Fantasies of Being Gangbanged by Isabelle Lauren. I wanted to share this one because I spend a lot of my time, both as a blogger and a podcaster encouraging people to turn their kinky desires and fantasies into reality. I enjoyed this blog post for presenting the joy of indulging in fantasies that you know will never be reality, nor would you wish for them to be. I have some of those myself, some of them are impossible to achieve, the video below highlights this with the themes of vampires, fear and being buried in the dirt! Others involve a level of brutality and danger that I just couldn’t risk. It doesn’t mean the idea of them isn’t arousing though, and very much enjoy my alone time with nothing but my imagination and my vibrator for company. 

You find more #SoSS posts by checking out the hashtag on Twitter. It is a great way for us to support and share the writings that many social media platforms see fit to silence. Which is reason enough to get involved by liking, sharing and shouting about the posts you love.

#SoSS – Share Our Shit Saturday (on Sunday)

I’ve been following and re-tweeting #SoSS (Share our Shit Saturday) for a little while now, but this is the first time I’ve joined in with my own post. If you would like to know more about the movement amongst bloggers then please read the awesome post by ErosBlog for the lowdown.

As much as I love supporting and championing other bloggers, especially those that writeIMG_6383 about kink, sex and other things much of the world still deems inappropriate for grown adults to discuss online, I am often terrible as getting round to reading as many posts as I’d like to. However with my recent decision to get involved in the Smut Marathon, I’ve found myself carving out more time to visit other writers and I want to share some of the posts I’ve read this week.

First up is Disclosure from Karin at theswingshift.co.uk. I loved this piece about finding a home in kink and often having to keep that secret from the world around us. When what we actually want to do is scream from the rooftops how happy we are to finally have that sense of belonging. It is a scenario that many of us can identify with. Even people like myself who are fairly open with their lifestyle, still have these moments.

Karin also wrote Kinky Mother, which I absolutely adored. As I am writing this round up I am also sat on the sofa with my 6 year old, taking it turns playing a pool game on his tablet. I don’t write about being a Mum very often though, but I love it when other people do. This post absolutely captures what it is to be a Kinky Mother.

I’m A Primal Here’s What It Means To Me is a post written by Charlton C. Tod who I recently discovered through him being a fellow Smut Marathon entrant. His recent post about what being a primal means to him was definitely informative for anyone who might being wondering what primal is, or whether it might be for them. I’ve always thought I had a bit of a Primal/prey side to my sexual nature, and Charlton’s post did wonders for confirming this.

My last post for my first #SoSS is Endless Possibilities – Being Part of an Open Poly Family from the wonderful Pixie Heart. I love Pixie’s blog, it is honest and open and gives people an insight into a family dynamic that many people would be baffled by through sheer lack of information. I think it’s so valuable to have people like Pixie opening up about her home life. It is posts like this that will hopefully help educate people about being polyamorous and/or non-monogamous.


There’s a chance you are already fed up of me mentioning the Smut Marathon, but the voting is now open for the first round. You can read all the wonderful metaphors we have written and place your vote for your top three. It has already proved a huge challenge for many of us, so your support means so much to us all.