Tag: Online Community

Wicked Women

I love women. Well I love all genders, but this post is specifically about women. But I promise I’m not leaving the rest of you out. You will get your post another day.

IMG_9080.JPGGrowing up I really struggled to make friends with or maintain friendships with other girls. There was always an underlying feeling of competition and bitchiness that I found very hard and had no desire to participate in. When I joined the kink scene it was with the same level of hesitancy about forming female friendships.

When it comes to kink, the friendships I have formed have been far more intimate and rewarding than any non-kink friendship I have ever had. I have friends I play with, from chaste kisses to full sex, both may or may not be accompanied by all manner of kinky joys. While to the non-kink world these encounters would move things from friendship into something else, for me this is what friendship sometimes looks like within the kink community. 

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Episode 45 – Online D/s with Eva from TheCage.Co

Eva from thecage.co is our guest today. The cage is a social networking site and online community for people interested in kink, BDSM and Fetish. It has been going for just over a year and now and we invited Eva along to tell us a little bit more about it.

As well as talking about thecage, we also wanted to talk to Eva a little bit about online D/s. When it came up in a thread on Twitter Floss realised it wasn’t something we had ever really discussed on the podcast and as it is popular within the kink community we felt it was something we should be talking about.

When Floss started to do some research for this episode to gather some questions together for Eva, she discover that the world of online D/s is not easy to find good and supportive information on. In any forum where a question on online D/s was asked there were two automatic responses 1. An assumption you’ll eventually move into in person D/s and 2. Disparaging comments about the discussion to opt for online D/s.

We discuss whether the huge divide between online and offline D/s is really necessary and whether or not we shouldn’t just be supporting everyone who wants to explore their kinks regardless of that being online or locally at munch.

Eva gives us some tips and advice for those people who are looking to explore their kinks with an online friend or partner. There are unfortunately a lot of scammers out there and we do want everyone to play safe, this means looking after yourself in both face to face encounters but also there are lots of things to consider when playing online too.

We also discuss some general kinks topics and we obviously introduce Eva to the wonderful world of Quick Fire Questions. It was a delight to chat to Eva, so please do go along and give thecage a little visit and see what you can find there to entertain you.

As always if you have any feedback you can email us on hello@proudtobekinky.com. You can also follow us and message us on social media.We are on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook. You can also find us on Patreon by searching for ‘proudtobekinky’, you can find our Patron only podcast FemDom and Fetish Fun there, where Bakji and I spare no details when discussing our kinky scenes.

We are also Part of the Podcast Jukebox Network along with Off The Cuffs, the Will Sean Podcast, Parking Lot Radio and Drinks with God. If you listen on Apple Podcast you can leave any of us a wonderful review should be feeling generous.

Episode 39: Loving BDSM Podcast gets #ProudToBeKinky

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone hosts of the Loving BDSM Podcast, are our guests this week. Not only do they host a podcast, but they each have their own blog, and Loving BDSM has it’s own site with a great community feel to it, helped by the forum and additions of things like the monthly book club.

We discuss how Kayla and John met and how their dynamic works for them, with Kayla identifying as a Babygirl and John being a Daddy Dom. They also identify as having a 24/7 dynamic, but how they manage and maintain that may not be the same as how other people do. We are big fans of sharing experiences and inviting other people to take from that what is useful to them, and Kayla and John do a wonderful job of sharing their thoughts in an open, honest and inviting manner.

Reading someone’s blog can be a great insight into who they are and what they are interested in. As their blogs played a key part in how they got together, it leads us to talk about both John and Bakji did their research before wooing their respective partners. Lots of friendships have been built through blogs and social media too, and we ponder how we are meant to make friends with someone who isn’t baring their soul on the internet on a daily basis. When you are a proud and self confessed social media whore.

Evolution of kinks and kink identities is a huge part of being a kinky person. Almost everyone within the kink community has a got a story of how they have changed since joining the scene. This usually means more fun and a better understanding of both ourselves and kink as a whole. Kayla and John share how their relationship has evolved, their online presence has evolved and also how their kinks have evolved, both individually and as a couple.

Part of what makes Loving BDSM a must listen podcast is the fact John and Kayla allow fun and silliness not only into their lives but also into their D/s. While there is a lot of serious conversations that need to be had when you are engaging in BDSM, it is also meant to be fun. This comes up in the podcast through various points raised, including what our various approaches to aftercare look like, and it isn’t necessarily how you’d imagine it look, especially if you are new to kink.

There is so much more that we cover in this episode, but I think I shall let you discover the rest for yourself, or the blog post will be a mammoth essay rather than a little round-up. You can find all the links to Loving BDSM here:

Loving BDSM – Home of the ’30 Days of D/s’ emails that Floss is currently blogging from, you can read those posts here.

Kayla Lords Blog – home of #MasturbationMonday which Floss recently submitted too, you can read that post here.

John Brownstone’s Blog 

As well as Loving BDSM, you can also listen to the other fab podcast that our part of our little Podcast Jukebox Network. Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. We are all on iTunes and we will love you forever if you leave us a star rating and review.

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