Welcome to Episode 18 of #ProudToBeKinky. Join Bakji and Floss as they talk about how to be more dominant… but in sexy way. Please excuse their ever so slightly sleepy demeanour, this is the after effects of a very fun night out with Fetishy friends. We are definitely following our own advice about being social, but sometimes this does leave us burning the candles at both ends. We promise we will be a bit more alert for the next recording.
So as you will know from previous episodes, Floss spends a lot of time perusing the internet and frequents places like the LoveHoney forum, FetLife groups and more recently Thecage.co forums. One of the questions that comes up time and time again in these forums is usually along the following lines:
‘My partner would like to be more submissive to me in the bedroom/in scene. How do I go about being more Dominant?’
The things people are often worried about are technical skills; for things like impact play, attitude; do they seem ‘Domly’ enough, confidence; nerves can absolutely take the edge of sexy times and many other worries come up alongside those few things. In this episode we talk about our own experiences, and what things might help someone who is new to Topping but really wants to give it a go and be confident with it.
Topics covered in this episode:
- The importance of communication
- How to avoid Topping from the bottom and why that is important.
- Practical ideas to combat nerves during a scene
- Types of Domination you can include
This episode also introduces our new feature, ‘Writing of the Week’, this week features a writing from The Ochre Muse Blog. We read out the writing in question and we discuss why we enjoyed it, and how it’s message supports the ethos of the podcast.
As always we enjoy hearing any feedback you have on the pod, so please do get in touch via, hello[at] proudtobekinky.com. You can also find us on Instagram, Twitter, FetLife and our new page over on Patreon. Please do come and connect with us and say a little hello.