[Life] 5 Things That Have Helped Me Navigate Non-Monogamy


Alternative Lifestyles, Communication, Emotional Well-being, Life, Nonmonogamy, Relationships, Self Expression, Self Reflection

Image via Pixabay Ethical non-monogamy is something I knew very little about before joining the kink community. It’s then something I got involved in almost as a side effect of being kinky. In truth I never thought I’d truly identify as non-monogamous and I never imagined I’d be truly happy to see someone I was […]

March 19, 2018

[Life] A Switchy Girl's Guide To … Aftercare


BDSM, Emotional Well-being, Kink, Switchy Girl's Guide

Image via Pixabay Aftercare – The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which those involved calm down, and slowly come back in touch with reality. When I first joined the kink community the concept of aftercare baffled me. As someone who would not consider themselves tactile or overly affectionate I decided that […]

March 12, 2018

A Switchy Girl's Guide To … Frenzy, Drop and FOMO


Alternative Lifestyles, BDSM, Communication, Emotional Well-being, Kink, Limits, Self Reflection, Switchy Girl's Guide

Image via Pixabay FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out Frenzy, drop and FOMO are to my mind a trio of spoil sports who given half the chance will definitely ruin our kinky fun. Knowing that they are always lurking around the corner ready to attack is half the battle, accepting they will happen and learning […]

February 12, 2018

[Life] Communcation – It's Not Just For The Poly People


Alternative Lifestyles, Communication, Emotional Well-being, Life, Nonmonogamy, Relationships, Self Expression, Self Reflection

Image via Pixabay I read something on social media this week that got me thinking about how some my blog posts might be perceived, and wanted to talk about it a little more. The summary of the post was: “I get really annoyed by all this ‘polyamory’ advice about communicating. Monogamous people need to be […]

December 8, 2017

[Life] Feeling Secure within Alternative Relationship Models


Communication, Emotional Well-being, Kink, Nonmonogamy, Relationships, Self Reflection

Image via Pixabay In my post ‘Compersion, Trust and Brain Niggles’ I spoke about how my sleeping brain was causing me to feel insecure, and how security looks different within an alternative relationship model. I’m far from being an expert on this matter, and I have so much still to learn, there are some things […]

December 4, 2017