[FemDom Friday] It's Okay For Submissives To Have A Voice


BDSM, Communication, Emotional Well-being, Femdom, Limits, Relationships, Self Expression

Image via Pixabay My own D/s dynamic only comes into play when we engage in kinky scenes. However I stand by the message of this article regardless of whether you have an in scene dynamic only or a 24/7 Master/slave dynamic and I am prepared for the onslaught of emails telling me I am wrong, […]

August 31, 2018

[Kink] Communication: It's Good For Ewe


#MasturbationMonday, Alternative Lifestyles, BDSM, Communication, Consent, Emotional Well-being, Kink, Relationships, Self Expression, Self Reflection

Image via Pixabay Apologies for the terrible pun of title, but I couldn’t resist when I decided to use this photo off Pixabay for my featured image.  One of the most recurring topics of conversation about how to do kink ‘right’ is about communication. What kinks people have and how they enjoy them is 100% […]

August 27, 2018

[Kink] The Cone of Shame is Fun with Friends


#WickedWednesday, BDSM, Communication, Consent, Fetish, Kink, Nonmonogamy, Self Expression, Self Reflection

Image via Pixabay For last weeks Wicked Wednesday I wrote a piece of erotica, ‘Cool Shower- Part 2‘ that contained humiliation as its main theme and a little while back I wrote ‘(Super Sexy) Thoughts on Erotic Humiliation’, and recently it is a kink that I have been thinking about more and more and I […]

April 25, 2018

[Kink] A Switchy Girl's Guide To … Trigger Plans.


BDSM, Communication, Consent, Emotional Well-being, Kink, Limits, Self Expression, Self Reflection, Switchy Girl's Guide

Image via Pixabay Try as we might to ensure all our BDSM scenes and play session go smoothly, there is always a chance of something not going according to plan. When an action, phrase or scenario stimulates a reaction in an individual we refer to it as a trigger. Trigger – an experience that provokes […]

April 9, 2018

[Kink] Cuckolding. It's Not Completely Cuckoo!


Alternative Lifestyles, BDSM, Communication, Consent, Cuckolding, Erotic Humiliation, Femdom, Kink, Nonmonogamy, Sex, Sexuality

Image Via Pixabay Cuckolding. Is It What You Think It Is? The dictionary definition of a cuckold is, ‘the husband of an adulteress, often regarded as an object of derision.’ In terms of cuckolding as a kink or Fetish, there is a lot missing from that sentence to get a clear picture of why people […]

March 30, 2018

[Life] 5 Things That Have Helped Me Navigate Non-Monogamy


Alternative Lifestyles, Communication, Emotional Well-being, Life, Nonmonogamy, Relationships, Self Expression, Self Reflection

Image via Pixabay Ethical non-monogamy is something I knew very little about before joining the kink community. It’s then something I got involved in almost as a side effect of being kinky. In truth I never thought I’d truly identify as non-monogamous and I never imagined I’d be truly happy to see someone I was […]

March 19, 2018

A Switchy Girl's Guide To … Frenzy, Drop and FOMO


Alternative Lifestyles, BDSM, Communication, Emotional Well-being, Kink, Limits, Self Reflection, Switchy Girl's Guide

Image via Pixabay FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out Frenzy, drop and FOMO are to my mind a trio of spoil sports who given half the chance will definitely ruin our kinky fun. Knowing that they are always lurking around the corner ready to attack is half the battle, accepting they will happen and learning […]

February 12, 2018

[Life] Communcation – It's Not Just For The Poly People


Alternative Lifestyles, Communication, Emotional Well-being, Life, Nonmonogamy, Relationships, Self Expression, Self Reflection

Image via Pixabay I read something on social media this week that got me thinking about how some my blog posts might be perceived, and wanted to talk about it a little more. The summary of the post was: “I get really annoyed by all this ‘polyamory’ advice about communicating. Monogamous people need to be […]

December 8, 2017