[Photography] Identity


#SinfulSunday, #WriteBigSexyWords, Bisexuality, Erotic Photography, Every Damn Day In June 2020, Life, Sexuality / Sunday, June 7th, 2020

I was totally stumped for a prompt image for this weekend’s Sinful Sunday, then I wonder if Violet had any words beginning with i in her June selection of Big Sexy Words and as it happens she does, identity. I then realised it was a perfect time to showcase my snazzy new trousers which I love btw and also talk a little bit about the words we used to describe our sexual identity.

Not everyone needs or wants to label themselves, including whatever label might express their sexuality. In some facets of life, labels are forced onto people and no one deserves to be forced into a box of someone else’s making, especially if that is detrimental to their well-being.

I think it’s important to know that for many folks labels can be affirming and rather than feeling restrictive they can be liberating. It’s easy to say they don’t matter, but the truth is for many of us they do and people fought and lost their lives to get us to the point we are now. Where many folks can use their chosen label without little or no fear of reprisals.

There is still a lot of work to be done though, coming out still isn’t a safe option for many of our LGBTQIA+ friends and it’s important we remember them and let them know we support them in their need to keep their safety a priority.

For me being a queer bisexual babe is totally part of my identity and I love those labels. I love that as time has gone on they fit me more and more.

I absolutely support those of you who choose not to label your sexuality, please be mindful though when someone is positively discussing their own identity that dismissing labels can often feel disrespectful or like we aren’t being listened to.

8 Replies to “[Photography] Identity”

  1. Those trousers are awesome! And as always your words are wise, labels can be both loaded, useful and meaningful. My labels seem to change as I do but I hate having a label forced on me.

    I’ve realised how dim I was, I didn’t even consider identity as my ‘I’ word

  2. Now over here, we don’t usually say “trousers”. But those pants are awesome! I love the last picture in particular—now can you lower those trousers just a wee bit more…

    1. Ha! You know what I always call them pants and I am ALWAYS getting told of for it by my fellow UK residents, so I purposefully made my write trousers

  3. “I absolutely support those of you who choose not to label your sexuality, please be mindful though when someone is positively discussing their own identity that dismissing labels can often feel disrespectful or like we aren’t being listened to.”

    Floss, I adore you. As someone who is slowly gaining comfort with using #LGBTQIA+ label(s) for myself, I really appreciate the sentiment that it’s personal but needs to be respectful and informed. Thank you for all you do, all you add to the community and all that you share with us. xx

  4. Oh Floss this bit actually made me well up with tears

    “I absolutely support those of you who choose not to label your sexuality, please be mindful though when someone is positively discussing their own identity that dismissing labels can often feel disrespectful or like we aren’t being listened to.”

    When I wrote my post a few months ago about being Queer so many people left comments on it about how they didn’t really need labels, or the point of them etc (I am paraphrasing) At the time I was actually really rather upset by those comments but I didn’t say anything because I thought I was being overly sensitive. But having published a post that took me a long time to write and felt very personal it was rather upsetting to have so many people basically go, pfft who needs labels.

    Thank you for saying this. You have made me feel so much better and made me realise that being upset at the time was actually justified although now I wish I had said something but I might go back and reply to some of those comments just in case anyone else comes across that post and see’s them and it puts them off writing or feeling comfortable discussing their own labels

    Molly

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