[Blogging] Why I’m Leaving The Smut Marathon


Community, Every Damn Day In June 2020, Smut Marathon / Monday, June 8th, 2020

I shared a post this week and a had a little rant on Twitter and I meant every word I said in them. There is a lot of two-faced bullshit occurring within this community with regards to how we treat folks across the LGBTQIA+ spectrum and I hate that. A few folks were kind enough to leave comments of agreement, or RT my content saying I was bang on the money or I’d helped them put their own feelings into context. These are great reactions to any post, however,  I felt guilty for receiving them on this particular subject. 

The why of my guilt is simple, I knew there were ways in which I could show my support that I was actively choosing not to. When I received my assignment for round 6 of the Smut Marathon I once again asked myself if I should continue competing. I discussed this in Why I Think Hate Is An Easy Lazy Thing. I kept telling myself, and others, that I was continuing with it to keep queer voices in the competition. Then I read Taking a stand by Rosie and realised part of why I was continuing was for personal gain and to feed my own ego. 

I hated the idea of quitting something. This is my 3rd yeard of Smut Marathon and it has always been more of a personal challenge for me than anything else. Also as Rosie said, I had visions of winning and using that win for good. Honestly, they were all empty, shallow dreams because people are speaking up constantly about what language and what behaviour is hurting them and they are being ignored constantly.

They are being blocked left right and centre on Twitter, the defence to this is that they are using bully tactics and they’re too aggressive (not my opinion I am paraphrasing). Here’s the thing though, you don’t have to be polite and nice when people are invalidating and threatening your existence. Quinn explains this far better than I ever could in hir post Fuck you and your tone policing. I do think there comes a point where the time for politeness is over when the calm, gentle and molly-coddling approach to teaching people to be better just doesn’t fucking work.

We are not listening hard enough. 

I, yes me, Floss, did not listen properly when it came to what I was being told about the Smut Marathon. 

Instead, I told myself I was doing some good by continuing with the competition. I was wrong. 

I realised that yesterday when I read Rosie’s post and felt ashamed that I hadn’t yet taken those same steps. 

I don’t think I’m a hero for finally coming to this decision. I do feel relieved though, I felt a sense of anxiety every time I thought about it and this is why, because I knew to continue with it was actually a shit thing for me to do.

So I’m out. 

I’m also out of any project or meme where our trans friends do not feel safe to post.

Until there is definitive and heartfelt change I will not be back. 

4 Replies to “[Blogging] Why I’m Leaving The Smut Marathon”

  1. Thank you for writing this Floss. I have continued to support memes and to read the smut marathon. Interestingly it was the post removed soon after publication that stopped me in my tracks. While not related to the recent trans negativity it showed that the smut marathon really isn’t a safe place. This makes me so sad. It has taken time for me to realise that saying nothing is really just another way of being defensive. I know I have to speak up too. xx
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  2. It’s too bad that Smut Marathon has gone in that direction. I always thought it was meant for inclusion of all without shaming anyone. Hopefully they will make some changes to the program. I’m all for freedom of speech, but freedom of speech requires responsibility too.
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