The best gift you are ever going to give someone,
is the permission to feel safe in their own skin.
To feel worthy.
To feel like they are enough. – Hannah Brencher
I mentioned in a recent post that I’ve been wearing less underwear, and I’m hoping the wonderful Violet will allow socks as my lingerie item for this week’s Lingerie is For Everyone, because at the moment the absence of lingerie is a wonderful thing.
I don’t remember the last time, in fact, there may never have been a time where my naked body was the ultimate preference. Now, this isn’t to say my body wasn’t wanted or complimented and it wasn’t shamed or seen negatively in any way. There’s a huge difference though between those things and serious, hardcore, desperate to have you now enthusiasm for nakedness.
I don’t know how or when it became a thing, but unless there’s a reason not to, most of the time I rock up to Mr Fuckery’s in a dress or skirt and some kind of long socks. Usually a bra too, for boob confidence reasons, but last time I ditched that too because it became clear bras were just another barrier to him getting his hands on me that we could do without.
The pictures above are pretty accurate representations of how I spend my time around him. Naked with my socks on. It feels so good and it feels good because it’s me he’s enthusiastic about, not any kind of fabric, or a cleavage that disappears when the bra comes off, or any kind of ‘look’ that he’s into.
Ditching the lingerie for a bit has been incredibly liberating and it has made me feel sexy in my own skin in a vanilla kind of way, which is new. I’d become accustomed to feeling sexy in a FemDom kind of way, in fact, FemDom was a huge leap in feeling sexy for me. Without that though it’s been nice to discover that I can feel sexy with nothing but a pair of socks on my feet.
I’ve even sent unfiltered nudes, which is a big deal for me. On the spot, whip off my tops, whip down my pants, snap the pics of my arse and tits and off they went. Did I hold my breath in case they weren’t quite what was expected or wanted? Absolutely! Was that worry necessary? Not at all. The reaction was that our next stretch of time together needed to hurry up and get here, a great reaction for me, especially when I spend a lot of time thinking the very same thing.
This doesn’t mean I’m turning my back on lingerie though, and I still wholeheartedly believe in the motivation behind Lingerie is For Everyone and I have loved watching it grow from strength to strength as the past 52 weeks have gone by. Violet has started and continued to provide a wonderful space for folks to explore their love of lingerie and I hope their love of themselves too.