[That’s My Kink] Chastity – For Cocks


Chastity, That's My Kink / Friday, May 31st, 2019

Chastity is a kink I had no idea I was into until the love of FemDom settled into my kinky little heart. Suddenly a whole new world of possibilities opened up to me and one of those possibilities involved locking Bakji’s willy away. It hasn’t been an easy to access kink for us though as I discussed in The Tease of Chastity.

We have persevered though, as all good perverts do and we have had some success with chastity play now. Thank you to a podcast listener who recommended the stocking technique for getting a chastity cage on, this made a huge difference to getting Bakji’s girth and length under control and locked away. The cage we have is still a little on the small size, so an upgrade will need to happen at some point, especially for longer periods of chastity.

Again thanks to our lovely podcasts listeners and my caged readers we now know which cages work best for larger willies and we are now confident we can enjoy chastity as part of our kinky fun. Which is wonderful, right? What could possibly go wrong now we can realise one of our kinky dreams.

Recently we played with chastity as part of a scene but not as the main event of the scene. We both knew he’d be coming out of the cage at some point because I wanted to get a picture of my boobs with cum on for Adorning My Boobs. We are quite happy to play with chastity in this way, as part of the scene rather than our main kink. The truth is though Bakji would have enjoyed being in it longer and I couldn’t wait to get the damn thing off him.

Don’t get me wrong, I am still excited to explore chastity further. I’d love to do it for a longer period of time. We have plans for a kinky getaway at some point this year, where we hope to indulge in more protocols and remain in our D/s dynamic for longer than just a single session. I cannot wait for this. Having Bakji at my mercy, subby and compliant for a decent stretch of time would be awesome and this would definitely involve prolonged periods of chastity. Which for us would likely mean a few hours to a whole day. Remember we are beginners and not looking to break any world records in cock caging.

The difficulty I have is that chastity seriously interferes with one of my other kinks. Which I discussed in That’s My Kink – Spunky Cockgasm. In short, I love seeing Bakji come, not only that though I love touching his nob and I love looking at it. It absolutely fascinates me and so much of my FemDom action focuses on my enjoyment of having his cock available for my entertainment. I’m not saying chastity makes this impossible, it just changes the way in which his cock is entertaining and I’m not yet fully in tune with how I best enjoy that yet.

Currently, this means that chastity is a huge tease .. FOR ME! What the ever loving fuck?! That is not how this was meant to go down. He was meant to be teased, pervy pants that he is though he just loves it. While he’s revelling in arousal and enjoying the fact he finally gets his willy caged, I’m counting down the seconds until I can free him and fully get my hands on him. I think chastity actually makes me want more of his cock and that is perhaps at odds of the point of chastity.

That said chastity is still 100% one of my kinks and one I am eager to explore further. Bakji sent me a dick pic for the first time ever when he finally got the cage on and feeling comfortable. That image definitely did things to me. I love how he looks when he’s caged. When he’s totally naked, except for that small amount of plastic, lock firmly in place, key firmly hidden, that combination of things and the potential it has literally makes my cunt spasm in delight. I want to both cage him and fuck him at the same time. Which is probably where pegging will come into the mix, but we haven’t tried this combination yet. Yet being the very important word, because it is definitely on both of our wishlists.

One of my main kinks is The Thrill of Power and chastity definitely plays into that. It also nurtures the albeit small desire I have to indulge in the ownership side of D/s. There is something about locking Bakji away that makes his cock feel more like Mine. I took the picture below which I shared for Sinful Sunday and what I loved about it is that at first glance you can’t tell if it’s my cock or his. Strapon or cock cage? When I said this to Bakji he replied ‘Well I think of it as yours anyway’. Hot damn, right answer my sexy friend, right answer. Chastity amplifies that feeling though and locking away what is Mine until I see fit to change that is so arousing.

I recently got asked how long I’d potentially be interested in leaving Bakji locked for and would I ever take him out and about doing regular things while he’s locked, and I thought they were interesting questions ponder. In terms of time frame as I’ve previously mentioned, we’re not aiming for long term wear, but we are definitely working toward extended sessions. I do love the idea of locking him up while we do podcast things about the house, knowing that later on a kink session is on the cards.

Which I suppose answers the second question a little bit as well. In terms of what counts as regular stuff for Bakji and I, a day of podcasting is about as domestic as it gets. We don’t go to the supermarket together or eat out very often. The majority of our outings are to kink events and time spent together outside of that is usually at my house chilling, podcasting or doing kinky things. I do enjoy the idea of him being locked away while we do what counts to us as every day.

I don’t think we’re into chastity in the same way as some folks or even for the same reasons and I don’t for one minute claim that we are experts on it. What I do find though is that chastity is one of those kinks that people have strong opinions on whether they’ve done it or not. When folks haven’t done it, but still have an opinion I usually find they’re not the best opinions and may be rooted in a lack of knowledge and understanding. Which is why I write posts like this.

Whether you want to use chastity for a scene or whether you want to use it as a more permanent part of your daily life, either approach is totally valid. It doesn’t have to be about cock size or humiliation, you don’t have to hand over the key to someone else. It can be about sensation, exploration and curiosity if that’s where you’re at. If you’ve got a cock and think it could be fun, sexy or deliciously torturous to pop a cage on it then this is a kink you can try.

Overall the people we see playing with chastity are submissive cisgendered men, but you can be a switchy fella like Bakji and still get your jollies from a cock cage. I know 100% that I will get trolled for this comment, by a submissive dude who misses the irony in telling me, a FemDom identifying woman, that I’m consistently doing FemDom wrong while simultaneously telling me women are ultimately superior. I make no apologies for making my blog inclusive, I make no apologies for my kinks accessible and I especially don’t apologise for wanting to spread the willy locking love. It’s damn hot and I want more folks to try it.

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3 Replies to “[That’s My Kink] Chastity – For Cocks”

  1. What I do like about your posts on kink is that you know what you want from a kink. This is a classic in the genre of “this works for us”.

    Chastity play is one of the worst activities for bringing out the back bedroom purists. Using chastity as a tease and for play is how the vast majority use and enjoy it. It’s not a lifestyle, it’s a kink within a FemDom lifestyle (and not always FemDom, either). Nobody else’s business how you and Bakji find the best play that suits you both.

    Yes, I lived the chastity lifestyle into permanent chastity. So many ‘players’ will tell you that has to be the natural progression – total bollocks. I’m always happy when I read of people finding their own levels in a kink who are confident to know their own views rather than wondering if the obsessives are right.

    xx

  2. This is so good, Floss, and I love your attitude towards it. There is so much solemn ritualising and fetishising of the locking itself that I wonder if people don’t miss the point sometimes. As a user of cages for short periods, I love its use as a session kink and really don’t understand the blokeish obsession with the number of days you can go locked. Each to their own, and maybe I’m still happy with it as a means to an end rather than an end in itself.

    The most interesting thing for me in what you said was about the way it makes you more aware, and desire more, the caged cock, while Bakji is getting off being locked. It’s a wonderfully ironic effect that even though you retain the power and the thrill of that, there’s also a desire that can override than power dynamic. It highlights for me that the main thing about male chastity play is the dynamics of it are wonderfully complex. And unexpected.

  3. Nice post Floss! There is never just “one way of doing things” and we all do what works for us. That’s the beauty of life!! I wear my cage most of the time, sleeping and going about my day! It works for us. But I am aware that many use it solely for play and that’s cool too! Have fun! (But make sure to tell us all about it).

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